If you’ve just had a baby, and feeling a little too overwhelmed, Hang in there, Let’s talk about it.
If you are a New Mom, you might be probably hearing enough of how this is supposed to be the most wonderful, beautiful time in your life. But, your little bundle of joy can often bring you to tears. The good news is, you’ve got lots of company, lots, as in every mom in the world. OK, maybe there are some quite lucky Moms where babies have a pattern of sleep or sleeps through the night. But literally every other mom on the planet is with you.
So, while you were trying to burp your baby for the hundredth time, I thought, I should pendown some points from past more than 7years of my experience with 2kids for all the new moms out there.
I’ll be cleaning poop for the rest of my life, It’s pefectly fine if you feel so- ‘Well, not in the way you think. Sooner or later, your child will be potty-trained, though there’s likely to be other kinds of crap you’ll have to clean up!’
Expert advice: Our Pediatricians said to start Potty Training only after 24months else it might affect their brain & it’s growth too, so I did the same & got hold of it in 3days. It may feel overwhelming, but soon, your baby will be toilet-trained.
I have to feed the baby day in and day out, I’am feeding the baby 24/7- Yes, you might be feeding all day now but, babies will be able to feed themselves too, right from putting those first finger foods in their mouth to preparing small snacks a few years down the line. Look out for these as they’re big milestones. In the meanwhile, see these ‘chores’ as opportunities for interacting with your baby, they’re better bonding and attachment-building exercises than play. Fathers should be cashing in on this, too. Look at these as a measure of the health as well as growth of your child, one step at a time!
I will never get my old body back!– OK, you may just be right there. Sure, you could lose all that weight and be as fit as you ever were, but it won’t be your ‘old body’. You just made a tiny human, right inside you, so of course everything’s changed and it’s never going to be the same. And if there’s something you just don’t like about your new body, you can blame your child/ren for the rest of their lives, or embarrass the hell out of them at their wedding reception!
On the other hand look at it like this- We all face body image issues- extra weight, stretch marks, bigger breasts, there’s so much to deal with. You can look to other moms for inspiration, as motivation to get back into shape, or to embrace your new body. It’s a very significant stage in your life. You’ve just done something amazing, by creating a baby. Celebrate it! But if you just can’t wrap your head around it, and are really miserable, speak to your doctor or Your Mommy friends, the later one works much better. You may just be suffering from postpartum depression(Yes, it exists, been there)
I’m going to go through my life in fatigue!– Someday, about eight/nine years later, you will sit back and have a decent adult conversation with your partner or even with your own child, or a night out with your friends. Stay strong! Be Practical and Don’t buy into the idea of a supermom, you don’t have to do everything yourself. Reach out, and ask for help. Talk to others in the same boat as you. Get on social network support groups, specially Moms’ or Parenting group. If you can find a real-life support group, with moms who have children the same age as your child, nothing like it. Go out and meet them, your child will get to play with their peer group, while you can talk about your worries, anxieties and frustrations, without any judgement. Find chores that others, your partner or parents or in-laws can do for you, and don’t hesitate to ask. They’ll be more than happy to help, you’ll get some respite, and your child will have more people to trust. It’s a win-win for everyone!
From been-there-done-that Moms, We all will reach there soon,
- To the other end
- To a peaceful home
- To a mess free Room
- Where babies don’t cry their lungs out
- Where nobody comes running and clings at you once you are home
- Where You don’t have to keep checking for pee and poop all day
- Where You wont be counting number of spoons baby had in a meal
- Where you won’t be feeding the baby day in a day out
- Where you can have a decent meal with your family, may be on the dining table
- Where you don’t stay awake all night
- Where you don’t have to sleep in same position for hours
- Where you can hangout with your friends without worrying about your children
- Where you won’t be cleaning your house in every 2 hours for babies safety
- Where you won’t call yourself a Mombie
- Where you don’t have to keep checking for wet nappies and changing them all night
Until then, let’s sail together, help each other or look at each other- feel good and say “I am not alone” And we all can sail through.