Stay At Home Moms are often neglected and so is their wellness. Why do I say this? because I am myself a SAHM and I often neglect my own health and wellness and Usually shrug off when my body and body needs rest or attention. Well I did realize it quite late that it’s neither good for me nor my family for whom I am Ignoring my health. Every SAHM(including me) should say this Once in a Day “Yes, My family and their needs comes first for me but, not at the cost of my health”
While there are some women who choose to be a SAHM after kids, the number is more who opt for this because of no support at home, not able get a reliable domestic full time help or lack of trustable crèche where working couple can rely on for their babies. It is assumed by society at large that it is a woman’s moral obligation to balance work and family life along with kids. However, this expectation and burden of unpaid labor and home care take a toll on their mental and physical health. Women feel constant pressure to complete their household tasks and to do them well, take care of kids, feed them, raise them healthy and wise. There is a fear of being judged, and a feeling of guilt if she is unable to complete any of these tasks. Moreover, there is rarely appreciation for all her work – be it cooking, cleaning, or taking care of kids or older people in the house. All these leads to several problems and take a toll on women health.
Depression and anxiety
Being a homemaker literally means having to do even the most minimal tasks at all times. One is never really free. This could definitely also lead to a lack of social interaction which can add to feelings of loneliness and depression. Other than that, all the pressure of maintaining a household, managing finances, and caring for family members can lead to anxiety and eventually to Depression. Also PPD is quite common in New moms and often goes unaddressed.
Lack of sleep
There are hundreds of studies that denote how important sleep is for the body. However, for homemakers and SAHM, the stress of making sure that everyone in the house gets everything on time and all the work is done can be stressful. This can also lead them to not sleep well since the anxiety of not completing a task can take over their mind even when they go to sleep.
Only a SAHM knows how much work there is to take care of the house right after one wakes. It definitely is exhausting. This can lead to burnout, which is characterized by emotional exhaustion, depersonalization, and reduced personal accomplishment.
No matter how much work one puts into this job, society still looks down upon a SAHM. Society does not classify it as a real job and that can definitely hamper one’s self-esteem, especially if one puts their heart and soul into the work. This can also lead to feelings of low self-worth and self-doubt.
Some of these practices can make a lot of difference when it comes to the Wellbeing of SAHMs. Lets have a look at them.
Exercise 6 days a week (I usually exercise for 5days a week but, for 30-45minutes) , for at least 20 minutes. Get at least 7-9 hours of sleep (I know it’s challenging with so much of work around but, it really helps). And eat a healthy and balanced diet (Including more and more fruits have been a lot of help for me).
Set healthy boundaries
It is important to be assertive and to be able to say no (I understand that it’s quite hard to say no) and know that there is nothing wrong in doing so. Others will respect you only if you respect your own self. Overworking and doing things that you don’t feel comfortable with can only ruin your health.
Women are natural at communicating their thoughts and feelings. When feeling down and lonely, they should communicate to their partners how small things have been affecting their health. If that could not be done then talking to a friend can also be of great help.
Every now and then is important to take a break and make time for your own self too. This will recharge you to take on the responsibilities positively and with renewed energy.
Try to meditate, even if it’s just 10 mins before you start your day. This will give you the energy to carry on with the challenging day ahead and keep you centered.
SAHMs need to stop apologizing for staying at home and start prioritizing their wellbeing. Thinking about self-care isn’t selfish. It is important to schedule that time for yourself to maintain a good mind/body balance. Even if it’s for 20 minutes in a day, do something that recharges you.